I recently have had some great conversations with some other mothers about a lot of issues and or daily tasks that have become harder and harder for us to do. Between working, taking care of the kids, going out on weekends, keeping the house clean, keeping everybody happy. We all kind of agreed upon the same issue. That we all need to stop trying to please everyone else. Sometimes it’s good to take a step back and relax. Although you do feel bad, because you know that family members do want to see your kids but at the same time you do have to make them understand that your kids also need some downtime from their week. That doesn’t mean that you will not visit or cannot plan anything but you plan in moderation. If your kids are small like mine, they have routines and schedules and when those are broken for any reason your day and their day gets ruined, and personally it is not fun.
A lot of our kids go to daycare during the week since we have to work and throughout the week it does get a lot for them too. They have to always be listening and learning and they are on schedules. That when it comes to the weekend, it’s always good to keep one day or even half a day where it’s more relaxed. Although it’s hard because you do want to do those visits and you do want to make everyone happy but at the end of the day you do have to think for yourself and your kids and what is best RIGHT now for them.
I recently made that change and I always keep one day (ex: Saturday) where we do activities and go places and do visits and then the other day ( ex: Sunday) we do an activity in the morning such as swimming classes, quick store shopping, making something together as a family, going out for breakfast or sports outside, but then in the afternoon, till the evening it’s more of a relaxed environment, where they play in their room, read a book, watch a show and just relax and do what they want to do. This change for us, worked really well even though it did upset some people around us, right now it is what is best for them.
Yes! there are some weeks where are do have a party or event to tend to that this change is impossible to do and that is also okay. At the end of the day you know your children and you know what is best for them.
